Tips on Creating a BBW Profile that Garner Sincere Results

Tips on Creating a BBW Profile That Garner Sincere Results
Reprinted from the Large and Lovely site by John J. - Owner/Admin

There are a number of tips that you can use to help create a BBW profile that will garner the most amount of responses. Of course, you may already be getting hundreds of replies, but you can always get more!

The headline of your bbw profile needs to be as catchy as possible to attract attention amongst the hundreds of other bbw profiles. You don’t have to be a marketing genius to produce a winning headline for your bbw profile, but try to make it a little different to the usual statements. You want your headline to cause a stir and entice people to read more of your bbw profile.

It is best to keep your bbw profile as brief as possible. Remember, that people may be browsing hundreds of bbw profiles, including yours, and don’t spend more than a few seconds on each one. Emphasize your good points in your bbw profile and try to think of what makes you unique. Your bbw profile is intended to be used to garner as any responses as possible from people who want to find out more about you. They are not going to do this if you have actually told them everything about you in your bbw profile. Leave enough pointers in your bbw profile that people will want to get to know you better.
Honesty is always the best policy, especially in your bbw profile. There is no point embellishing your bbw profile, just to garner more responses. Your deceit will soon be discovered once you meet someone who has read your bbw profile. There is no need to reveal anything that you feel may be seen as a negative In your bbw profile, just leave it out.

Spelling and grammar may not be amongst your strengths, but you need to pay close attention to detail with your bbw profile. If your bbw profile is full of spelling mistakes it is likely to be interpreted as a lack of thought or care. You can find aids in most word processing packages to help ensure that your spelling and grammar in your bbw profile are correct. You may also want to ask a friend to read through your bbw profile for you before you submit it. They can also give you pointers if you are not very confident about ‘selling yourself’. Other people often see more good points in us than we do in ourselves and can help you to highlight your best qualities for your bbw profile.

Finally, you need to think carefully about the type of person that you want your bbw profile to attract. If you place yourself in another person’s shoes for a few minutes and read your bbw profile it can help. You need to assess whether you would want to get to know more about the person who has written the bbw profile and ensure that you give yourself the chance that you deserve to meet the people you want to. Never submit your bbw profile after the first draft. Always go back to it a little while later and check to make sure that you have the bbw profile that maximizes your matching potential.

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I Love This Site - Adipositivity

Every time I wander over to adipositivity.com I am amazed at the beauty I find in the photographs there.

From the website:

The Adipositivity Project aims to promote size acceptance, not by listing the merits of big people, or detailing examples of excellence (these things are easily seen all around us), but rather, through a visual display of fat physicality. The sort that's normally unseen.

The hope is to widen definitions of physical beauty. Literally.

The photographs here are close details of the fat female form, without the inclusion of faces. One reason for this is to coax observers into imagining they're looking at the fat women in their own lives, ideally then accepting them as having aesthetic appeal which, for better or worse, often translates into more complete forms of acceptance.

The women you see in these images are educators, executives, mothers, musicians, professionals, performers, artists, activists, clerks, and writers. They are perhaps even the women you've clucked at on the subway, rolled your eyes at in the market, or joked about with your friends.

This is what they look like with their clothes off.

Some are showing you their bodies proudly. Others timidly. And some quite reluctantly. But they all share a determination in altering commonly accepted notions of a narrow and specific beauty ideal.

Bookmark adipositivity.com and check back often, as new photographs are added regularly(ish). And please help spread the message. The Adipositivity Project: Changing attitudes about the aesthetic validity of big women, one fat fanny at a time. 

New Year's Wish

What is your New Year's wish as it relates to love and relationships?

Personally, I've been closed off to the idea of love or relationship for a long time for many reasons.  A few months ago, the person I think of as the love of my life, even though we hadn't been in a relationship for a long time, died suddenly.  No more opportunities to do it better or differently.  Also, finally realizing it was time to let go.

So this year, my wish for the New Year is that my heart and mind open up to love and possibility again.  I look forward to sharing that journey with all of you.

So tell me - what is your wish for 2011?

You never forget how to ride a bike . . . right?

So, another year is wrapping up and I'm looking back on where I've been and where I'm going and have decided that it is time to dive back into the dating pool.  I've taken a two-year hiatus and have been hesitant to jump back in -- but time passes by so quickly, and having an intimate and important relationship with a partner is important to me. 

I've spiffed up my profile a bit and placed it on a few sites aimed at men who have a preference for BBWs and SSBBWs . . . . and am taking you all along on my journey with me.

Following is my new profile - would love to hear any feedback you have and hear your stories about online dating  . . . the good, the bad and the ugly.

Profile:
I am a SSBBW (5'6", 350 pounds), a pretty and young-looking 44, with dark hair and green eyes. I am confident, independent, and drama-free. I am smart and self-supporting. I like the way I look and feel sexy and attractive (most days at least). I enjoy going to the movies every week, music, walking the dogs, drinking coffee and reading in my backyard, writing, summer time, margaritas and a good steak.

I am looking for a kind, honest, communicative and independent man who can take as much as I give and give back as much as I need. Probably between the ages of 35 - 55 - but I'm flexible on that. Smart, funny and masculine . . . makes me swoon! My preference is someone in the Southern California area - or someone who is able and interested in relocating.

I am looking to meet people and find someone who can at least imagine the idea of a long-term relationship without breaking out into a cold sweat. Although I am passionate and open - I am only interested in being that way with someone who I've at least met in real life.

I appreciate men and love spending time with them. I am looking for a true FA who appreciates SSBBWs in the bedroom and in real life. A friend and a lover. Please, if that's you . . . send me a message! Let's meet and see if there is chemistry.

What I've learned about being an SSBBW dater

From Linda james at Helium:



Here are some few things that I learned as a Plus Size Woman:


1.  Like yourself: If you like you other people will like you. They will feel your confidence and accept it.

2. Don't try to compete with the skinny girl. People like what they like and if they are into the skinny girl there is nothing that you can do about it. There is someone for you

3. Dress appropriately. Don't try to wear clothes that don't fit. Wear what is right for your body and shape. And yes big girls are sexy too.

4. Don't make jokes about your size. There is nothing worst then someone trying to make other people comfortable by making fun of yourself. That just shows that you don't like you. So how can anyone else.

5. Size acceptance. Accept where you are in your size. If you are not comfortable with your size then change it. But whatever size you are accept it. Again you have to be real with you.


6. When a man compliments you take it. Don't always assume that they are just saying that to make you feel good. They might actually mean it and if you ignore it you might miss your opportunity that you have been waiting for.

7. Don't settle for being the "fat friend". You don't have to take that role of the fat friend. Just be the friend and if your friends decide to paint you in that light, get new friends.

8. Believe that you are beautiful. When you look in the mirror tell yourself that you are beautiful and believe it.

9. Don't just settle for any guy. Know that there is someone for you and don't settle for any guy just because he smiled at you and you think you can't do better. Decide on what you want and go for it.

10. Don't let a man treat you anyway. Don't think that you have to take abuse because of your size. You have a right to be treated well too. 


11. Work on your self esteem. Know your worth. Size should not determine your self worth.
Big girls are beautiful, sexy, funny and smart. The problem is we let the world tell us that we are not based on our size. Well stop listening to the world and listen to that beautiful woman inside you and then release her and let the world stop and stare.

Is Honesty the Best Policy

The following article was published by Abi on Online Dating Tips.  I used to be vehemently opposed to any transgressions in personal ads.  I was always honest, because I really didn't want anyone to be surprised when they met me and I felt if the other person lied about something it would really not set a good tone for how the relationship might move forward.   I have been convinced by others that it might be okay to fib about your age a bit to come up in searches that you might otherwise be eliminated from based on the age ranges - if you are clear up front in your ad or first few exchanges about your real age. 

As SSBBWs I'm curious as to how others handle the weight issue.  I always put my exact weight in the ad.  Like I said, I don't want anyone to be surprised when they meet me.  Someone's version of an SSBBW or BBW might be different than mine -- and I'd prefer to be on the same track with them before we meet.  How do you handle this issue?

Is Honesty The Best Policy? – The Risks You Take When You Lie On Your Profile

By Abi – Online Dating Tips.Com August 27, 2010

Looking for a boost in profile views? Generalizations about what the opposite sex wants might inspire you to fib a little on your profile. Here are some things to keep in mind if you’re thinking of typing up a few harmless falsehoods. 

The first time you sit down to craft that dating profile, a small thrill of power shoots through your fingers.  You get to decide how to present yourself.  You get to decide which side of you prospective matches see first.  It’s perfectly natural that in this moment of power you think, “How much could one little white lie hurt?”

Well, if it’s super little, it won’t hurt much.  If, for example, you claim to be an inch taller than you are, you’re probably in the clear.  Most people don’t show up to dates with tape measures, and a difference so small isn’t likely to matter to anyone else as much as it does to you.  But if you’re thinking of adding several thousand dollars to your yearly income or claiming you smoke rarely when you go through two packs a day, you might want to remind yourself that at some point, they will find out.  And when they do, here’s what you have to lose:

You’ll look like a liar. Never underestimate how much this matters.  If you claim to look like something you don’t, you don’t get to pull the “How dare you judge me by my looks” card when your date ditches you at the door.  Bottom line: people don’t like dishonesty, no matter how irrelevant the lie.  And as soon as your date learns that you fibbed at first contact, he’ll be wondering how many more lies you’ve got in store for him.

You’ll seem insecure. Personal confidence is paramount to sex appeal.  You will always have a hard time attracting the opposite sex if your potential matches can see that you don’t even believe you’re a great catch.  Now, you may have all the confidence in the world; you just want to fib a little bit because you read an article that says women love men who cook.  Even so, when your date eyes your burnt omelets and realizes your game, she may wonder if you felt you had to make things up because you didn’t believe you had anything real to offer.

You probably won’t get what you want. Cute tomboys are the best, right?  They’re good-looking, but they still love to get muddy and spend their Sundays watching football with their feet on the coffee table.  What more could a man want?  It seems like it’s in a woman’s best interest to try the tomboy routine.  One problem . . . if you claim to love football, you will be approached by men who want to share that with you.  Fellas, if you claim to love Salsa dancing, you will meet women who want to share that with you.  And if any of you claim to make $900,000 a year, you will most definitely be approached by passionate prospectives who want to share that with you.

So really, your best bet is to be who you are and let your real identity serve you well.  It’s very difficult to find a true match when you’re only displaying a masked version of yourself.  Not to mention, the truth always reveals itself eventually.  Spare yourself the mess and keep it real from the very start.