What I've learned about being an SSBBW dater

From Linda james at Helium:



Here are some few things that I learned as a Plus Size Woman:


1.  Like yourself: If you like you other people will like you. They will feel your confidence and accept it.

2. Don't try to compete with the skinny girl. People like what they like and if they are into the skinny girl there is nothing that you can do about it. There is someone for you

3. Dress appropriately. Don't try to wear clothes that don't fit. Wear what is right for your body and shape. And yes big girls are sexy too.

4. Don't make jokes about your size. There is nothing worst then someone trying to make other people comfortable by making fun of yourself. That just shows that you don't like you. So how can anyone else.

5. Size acceptance. Accept where you are in your size. If you are not comfortable with your size then change it. But whatever size you are accept it. Again you have to be real with you.


6. When a man compliments you take it. Don't always assume that they are just saying that to make you feel good. They might actually mean it and if you ignore it you might miss your opportunity that you have been waiting for.

7. Don't settle for being the "fat friend". You don't have to take that role of the fat friend. Just be the friend and if your friends decide to paint you in that light, get new friends.

8. Believe that you are beautiful. When you look in the mirror tell yourself that you are beautiful and believe it.

9. Don't just settle for any guy. Know that there is someone for you and don't settle for any guy just because he smiled at you and you think you can't do better. Decide on what you want and go for it.

10. Don't let a man treat you anyway. Don't think that you have to take abuse because of your size. You have a right to be treated well too. 


11. Work on your self esteem. Know your worth. Size should not determine your self worth.
Big girls are beautiful, sexy, funny and smart. The problem is we let the world tell us that we are not based on our size. Well stop listening to the world and listen to that beautiful woman inside you and then release her and let the world stop and stare.